Proverbs 14:1,2,3 Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.  He that walketh in uprightness feareth the Lord: but he that is perverse in his ways despiseth him.
In the mouth of the foolish is a rod of pride: but the lips of the wise shall preserve them.

Without thinking things through to the end, sometimes I begin the process of tearing down.....

every cutting word
every negative attitude
every thought of superiority
every lazy motive
every time I am discontent with the life God has created for me and my family
every time I am positive I can do better than my husband....

Without thinking things through to the end, I tear down the very ones I love the most!   It is so important to keep my thoughts under control, which is hard to do in this emotional female body!
It takes great determination to keep my mind on  Christ and His kingdom, and His Word, and remembering the rewards that come from building my family up.
The things that help me as a wife, and mother are:
fellowship with godly women
corporate worship
the Word
prayer,
KLOVE ....
Maybe you have some different things that help you keep your mind under control and focused on Christ....
love jackie